This is the first in a series of video posts and conversations around some of the themes in The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You.
Without question, some of my fondest memories have been in the context of community.
In high school, student council provided an outlet for creativity and friendship.
In college, a leadership organization (pictured above) brought me some of my dearest friends and fondest memories.
As an adult, a Monday night book club brought me some of my first friends when I moved to Nashville, who were there for the birth of Elias and many other special times.
Every one of those experiences was special because of the people. We are not meant to live life alone, however, oftentimes it can be challenging for women to make time for community.
As I learned in talking with women for The Fringe Hours, many often prioritize other activities such as children's school activities, work events, even staying home and cleaning over going out and having time with friends. Here's what one woman said:
I feel guilty that I work all day do the last thing I want to do is go out with friends for me time, when I don't spend the day with my kids.
This breaks my heart. We must make time for community – and we shouldn't feel guilty about it.
When I was younger, community was easy because it was all-around me, thanks to school and limited responsibilities. I took it for granted. As an adult, I've learned community takes intentionality and is critical to my happiness and personal well-being.
I also think that as a mom, it is important for my children to see me making time for community. When they are adults, I pray that they have deep, meaningful friendships too.
I do a variety of things in pursuit of community. For instance, I try to schedule one “friend lunch” a week during my lunch break at work. Periodically, I have friends over to craft together. I also attend several blog conferences annually in order to get quality time with friends and cultivate new friendships. These things take planning and often mean saying no to something else, but they are always worth it.
This past week, I joined a moms group at my church. With being on maternity leave, this was a new opportunity for me. Watch this 2 minute video to hear about my experience and what I learned from it.
I hope you are encouraged by my story. If making time for community is hard for you, I get it. If you have the opportunity, but saying yes is hard, I get that too. But time and time again, I am reminded that it is always worth it.
I am worth it. You are worth it.
Do you make time for community? Why or why not?
For more encouragement and practical advice about the importance of making time for you and how to do it, pre-order my new book The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You. It releases in just 2 weeks!