Last week Tuesday was Teacher Appreciation Day.
Thanks to Pinterest I had high hopes of making homemade sugar scrubs in mason jars with perfect printable tags.
But I ran out of time. So Tuesday morning, I folded three pieces of construction paper for Elias to make cards for his three classroom teachers.
When Matthew came into the living room he saw Elias working on the cards and asked me, “is someone leaving?”
“No, it's teacher appreciation day, so he's making his teachers cards.”
“That's so thoughtful,” he replied.
“No, according to Pinterest. I'm a failure of a mother. People make all these cool gifts and we are just doing homemade cards.”
We then went on to discuss if I should get some gifts from my gift stash to give along with the cards. I decided that was probably over the top.
Elias was so excited to give his teachers their cards. He memorized what color went with what teacher and ran right into his classroom to pass them out. Elias's teachers were delighted by the cards he made.
This simple experience reminded me how Pinterest cannot be our yardstick for good parenting – or for thoughtfulness. As someone who doesn't use Pinterest, Matthew saw the cards as thoughtful, but I saw them as not enough.
This is a problem.
Yes, Pinterest is amazing. But, as women we need to use it for what it was intended – visual bookmarking – and nothing more. It does not define you as a mother, as a giver, as a person.