Who Loads the Dishwasher “Right”?

by jessicaturner on July 31, 2014

Disclosure: This is the second in a two part sponsored series with Haier, who provided our family with a new dishwasher.

This week I had a lively discussion on Facebook discussing the important question of who loads the dishwasher “right” in your house.

Here are some of the responses:
Nancy: This is so funny….me and I re-do his – even after 2 decades later of marriage. However, I shut my mouth about it because he’s putting them in the dishwasher!!!

Amy: I load it right. My husband insists that his way is “good enough.” However, he frequently puts things in the dishwasher that are not dishwasher safe. Also, I can fit about 50% more dishes in than he can, while still getting them clean.

Deidra: Yeah. So. My husband loads the dishwasher and, after all these years, I’ve finally conceded that the fact he loads the dishwasher makes his way the “right” way.

Jill: Me. I am the only person who loads it right. I have even been known to rearrange other family members dishwashers “the right way”…..

Linny: I do it right, it’s a dance of getting everything to fit while still allowing for proper water flow to hit all the sides of each dish. When I was super pregnant my husband would pull up a chair next to the dishwasher and hand me dishes to load for him. I am the dish loading rock star!

Amanda: Neither of us load it correctly. We get lazy and load big bowls, big plates, and pans at the bottom of the dishwasher and the water can’t reach the top rack. Then we leave the halfway washed dished in the top rack for the rest of the week, hoping that they will miraculously get clean because we run the dishwasher every night with new dishes added to it. By the weekend, I take stuck-on food dishes out and wash them by hand and put them away. The madness starts again the following week. We just can’t be completely organized in everything, we aren’t those people. And the dishwasher is pretty darn low on the priority list.

Amber: I do – Noah tends to put EVERYTHING we used for a meal in the dishwasher, where I put the things that fit best in there, but hand wash the bigger items that simply take up too much room or don’t fit nicely. I can bring myself to run the dishwasher more than once a day!!!

Cheri: Oh my that would be me…bit of a control freak on this subject I hate to admit

Anne: Um me. He always puts things in the super prime real estate spots on the top rack that could go on the bottom. Drives me insane.

I giggled, nodded my head and smiled as I read my friends’ words. Did any of them sound like you could have said them?

Typically I am the dishwasher loader because I just feel like I do it more efficiently and frankly, better, than Matthew. He has lots of other fantastic qualities, but utilizing space effectively in a dishwasher isn’t one of them.

One of my biggest pet peeves is putting a bunch of big stuff in the dishwasher when small stuff needs to go in.

Case and point, this morning the counter was littered with sippy cups and breakfast bowls, so I thought the dishwasher must be full and clean.

In fact, it was full and dirty, but rather than dirty with a day’s worth of dishes, it was dirty with big mixing bowls and a pan.

Sweet mercy. I can’t even. I am all about washing the big stuff so that as much little stuff can get in and cleaned at one time.

Naturally, I took the big things out, hand-washed them and loaded the small dishes in.

Haier DishwasherMuch better, right?

Our new Haier dishwasher really maximizes it’s design to fit A TON of stuff in. So much so, that sometimes after I have gotten everything in, it still has room for the occasional mixing bowl. I just don’t start with the mixing bowl when it is time to load the dishes.

Because I have been so sick with my pregnancy, I have had to let a lot of things go, including how Matthew loads the dishwasher. Many days, it’s been have dishes loaded in a way that makes no sense (to me), or have no dishes.

Clearly I am feeling better.

Who loads the dishwasher “right” in your house?

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{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

Kelly H August 1, 2014 at 8:23 am

This cracks me up! I obviously missed this discussion on fb, I would have been all over it. Everyone at my house knows, I am the best dish washer loader and I’ve trained everyone to accept my way. My Mother recently stayed with us for 7 weeks, oh have mercy she needs some dishwasher loading lessons! In her defense, she lives alone and only runs her dishwasher a few times a week, we are a family of 4 who run it every day. When my hubs is loading and he runs out of room he says “I think you need to come over here and fix this” or “even you can’t fit anything else in here,” usually I can though! Ha!

What a fun post! Everyone has their quirks. :)


Shellie August 1, 2014 at 8:39 am

Haha!!! Trent is the cook. I used to do the dishes after, but now that we have a baby, I am usually tending to him, so Trent pretty much handles the clean-up as well. If I’m not in there while he’s loading and he starts the dishwasher, I don’t care…out of sight out of mind. He’s doing the dishes and he cooked. However, if the dishwasher isn’t all the way full and a take a peek, I will definitely “fix” it, lol! I can fit more in and I’m a bit picky with where things go. He laughs at me and I don’t put him down with how he does it. :) us women can be strange, huh 😉


Alyssa August 1, 2014 at 12:59 pm

I have never owned a dishwasher so it certainly isn’t me! In fact, when I go to friends’ houses and help clean up, it intimidates me so much I just hand wash everything.


Kelly M August 1, 2014 at 2:22 pm

My husband is the main dishwasher re-arranger, I’m less fussy about it, done is much better than perfect in our home. Either of us starts it but most often I am the one to empty it. I figure that I have some kitchen help and some is much better than none!


Audrey August 1, 2014 at 3:35 pm

In my house, whoever actually loads the dishwasher and gets the dishes run, loads it correctly. My husband and I each approach it differently, but we are both grateful to the other when they do it.


Jo-Lynne Shane August 2, 2014 at 10:40 am

This is an ongoing battle in our house. Why is so difficult to load a dishwasher efficiently!!? LOL. Drives me nuts when my husband or kids load it. I have to redo it.


Cody Doll August 5, 2014 at 11:54 am

This is so opposite of my relationship. I never had a dishwasher and I tend to wash things by hand but James uses the dishwasher. He puts lots of things in all neat. No way I could do that. haha.


Susan Bagwell August 8, 2014 at 8:33 pm

okay, i’m a little late on this reply, but i MUST. GOD wants us spending our time PERFECTING OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM—not such silly things as loading a dishwasher. please do better than i did!! i’m outnumbered–only female who survived the tribe– 31 years married-one son married, the other back home. i have had their friends come and open MY dishwasher to put what they’ve used in “as they should,” but mine have DISHWASHER fright and clean this/that/-make your bed RIGHT perfectionist/control freak; MY WAY is the best way phobia from this MOM. is that the guy you want your daughter to marry–nope! we chase our husbands when they finally TRY and we try to tell them to do it another way–if your husband is a perfectionist at packing the trunk for vacation then i would think he’s the same at the dishwasher (or could be…..mine isn’t–so I just do it) they have a quote for me– “we know-you did it all by yourself!” my point–they all need to participate–have to try everything, and let them show us their stuff— not only do you chase them from YOUR kitchen and PRESENCE when they don’t dry those wet rims from the plastic cups where MOLD forms — you chase them from TRYING to attempt anything NEW. if you need to FIX the way they made their bed–do it when they leave if it makes you feel better. as a stay-at-home mom—i felt compelled it was my JOB to do it ALL. now i feel like a failure because i have guys like the one i married–ones that their mom catered to and did it herself so it would be done when I wanted it done and done RIGHT (according to me. ) MOST IMPORTANTLY–Perfectionism is a waste of time; especially when imposing it on our loved ones; —I think I have a few more years on most of you–half done with good intentions and a sweet heart WINS!!


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